YOU MUST KNOW WHAT YOU WANT

Suppose you woke up one morning and by some miracle everything you ever wanted, everything good you could ever imagine for yourself, had actually happened - your life had turned out to be exactly the way you wanted it.

Think about it now.

What will you notice around you that let you know that the miracle had happened?

What will you see?

What will you hear?

What will you feel inside yourself?

 

When I ask this question of my clients most cannot answer, except in very general terms. They do not have a clear idea of what success would mean for them. And because of that, they will never achieve it.

 

Until you have a clear idea of what you want you will continue to wander through life aimlessly. You must know what you want first, before you can have any chance of getting it.

 

The key to success is knowing what you want.

 

The Miracle Question is your wake up call.

Unless you can answer the question immediately with exact details of what your ideal outcome would be, you are not yet in a position to take charge of your life.

Hypnosis can help you to supercharge your motivation, but if you do not know where you are going, if you would not recognise success if you got it, then your efforts will soon stall.

 

So how do you work out what you really want?

The Dare question may have an answer for you.

 

• Finding your goals

 

or try one of the exercises below:

 

THE MIRACLE EXERCISE

Suppose tonight, while you are asleep, a miracle happens. Everything you ever wanted comes true.

When you waken in the morning how will you be able to tell that the miracle has happened?

As an exercise, sit or lie down somewhere quiet where you won't be disturbed, and carry out the miracle exercise. Allow your breathing to slow, settle comfortably and let your mind wander where it will. Ask yourself 'After the miracle, What will I see that is different?', 'What will I be that is different?', 'What will I feel inside that is different from the way I feel now?'.

Think about those questions for a while, and then ask yourself 'What would the other people in my life, see, hear, notice, that was different?' Think about each of the people in your life and see yourself after the miracle from their point of view, imagining what is going into their eyes and ears, what is going through their mind as they deal with the new you. Think about what they would think about your behaviour, attitude, values in your new life. Think about how you would behave, knowing what they think and see. Spend about ten minutes or so doing the exercise.

 

Then resume your normal tasks, go through the rest of your day, and in every situation, as you get into that situation, imagine how you would behave if the miracle had happened, and then do as much of that behaviour as you can.

 

The following day, think about how you acted when you assumed that miracle had happened, and how many things you actually did that were part of the miracle, and then lie down again, and imagine your life after the miracle in even more detail.

 

Repeat this exercise every day until the miracle has happened.

You will then be living the miracle.

 

THE AS-IF EXERCISE

Tomorrow morning, as soon as you get up, as soon as you are reminded of your problem in some way, ask yourself "What would I be like if I was rid of my problem?". "What would it be like if my problem had just vanished? What would I be doing? What could I do that I don't do now?".

Then let something come to mind. Probably several things will come to mind.

 

Choose the smallest, least significant thing that you would be doing if your problem had gone. Choose something definite, some act or behaviour, something that could be measured or noticed, not just an attitude. Then during the day, act 'as-if' your problem was gone. Put the 'as-if' change into practice, actually do it, that small insignificant thing. And every day keep doing it, and the next day choose something else, some other small insignificant thing, to do as well. And keep doing those things 'as-if' you did not have the problem. And a miracle will happen: you actually will not have the problem.

Acting 'as-if' frees you to not have the problem any more.

 

• Topic: Self Programming