for success?
for success?
Don't accept second best
How to get a better life
It's said that we all know how to drive better than we do drive, and we all know how to plan better than we do plan. What happens is that in driving we reach a level of competence that is good enough, and we stop there. We accept a skill level and a set of behaviours that are sufficient to stop us getting arrested or crashing the car. This is known as satisficing - doing just enough to get by.
But many of us live our lives that way too.... doing just enough to get by.... when in fact we already know how to have a better life than the one we are living.
People get trapped into accepting second best for themselves. Often the process is so gradual that it is only when someone or something jolts them out of their comfort zone that they become aware that there is even a problem.
There are many easy to learn techniques that can remind us of how to go beyond satisficing, how to get the quality of life we have forgotten we wanted.
Challenging yourself is the way to kick start a stalled life.
Test Your Readiness
People often say that their lives would be OK if only they had more time or more money or more something. If fact when people win large sums of money on the lottery they usually don't know what to do with it. They buy a new car and then a big house and then they run out of ideas. Most winners give the money away. They just were not prepared for success. There are several question you can ask yourself that will let you know if you are ready to start winning. Are you ready for success, now?
Affirmations
The simplest way to change your mental attitudes is by changing your beliefs. You do this with affirmations. An affirmation is a specific, positive statement saying that something you want is already so. For example "I am outgoing and people like me" is an affirmation. The affirmation should bring to mind the certainty that what you want is already happening. If you say it often enough, and combine the words with vivid images and positive emotions, then your mind will accept it as true. As soon as your mind has accepted it, your subconscious will work to make it true. You can learn how to create great affirmations.
Goal Setting
The first step to success is knowing what you want. Setting goals is the most powerful and long lasting form of self programming. The effect of setting a goal is almost magical. The moment you actually commit to a goal obstacles disappear, opportunities open up and resources just seem to to appear from nowhere. Study after study has proven that setting personal goals leads to increased performance. To harness this effect you need to establish clear, measurable and challenging goals in multiple areas of your life. You can learn how to set goals like a winner.
Visualisation
The Law of Expectation states that you will get what you think about. Visualisation is a structured way of experiencing what you want vividly. Visualisation allows you to imagine exactly what you want your future to be, and is the first step to getting exactly what you want. It is simple, effective process that can applied anywhere, anytime.
Submodalities
Simple visualisation allows you to create your own future. But you can also use visualisation to take control of your past. Submodalities is a method of using the mind's own procedures to influence how you perceive and react to the events in your own life. As Bandler says "It's never too late to have a good childhood". You don't have to allow past events to control how you feel and behave today.